The concept of five love languages may sound cheesy, but figuring them out can really help your relationship. It’s kind of like that whole men are from Mars, women are from Venus thing. Everyone wants to be loved. Some of us are happiest when we can give love but to achieve any of this it would help if we truly understood HOW loving works. It all boils down to COMMUNICATION.
Dr. Gary Chapman, the author of “The Five Love Languages“, has found that people tend to give love in the way they prefer to receive love. Because that’s usually different for each of us it’s how our relationships end up getting complicated. But through his more than 30 years of couples counseling, Dr. Chapman has noticed specific patterns in the way partners communicate — and it turns out that most of the population express and interpret love in the same five ways, thus “The Five Love Languages”.
The five languages are pretty straightforward, but here’s a brief description of what each of them mean:
- Words of Affirmation: Expressing affection through spoken affection, praise, or appreciation.
- Acts of Service: Actions, rather than words, are used to show and receive love.
- Receiving Gifts: Gifting is symbolic of love and affection.
- Quality Time: Expressing affection with undivided, undistracted attention.
- Physical Touch: It can be sex or holding hands. With this love language, the speaker feels affection through physical touch.
Learning how you and your partner, even your children, each receive love can greatly help you have BETTER love and communication between you. It can help to have a healthy lasting relationship.
Take the quiz and find out what your love language is: The 5 Love Languages