Have you heard the statement, “If you see a sucker lick it”?  Basically meaning if a person is going to let you get away with something then go for it.  I’ve been guilty of using it but I myself have treaded lightly when it comes to putting it to use because in my opinion there’s a fine line you walk there ESPECIALLY when it comes to matters of the heart.

Because so many of us are selfish and we want what we want, we often times don’t consider the other person’s feelings before we do what we do and/or we don’t consider the long term effects.  Prime example, from my own life and so many around me:

We women really like a guy and let him know that we’re looking for a mate. (remember we LET HIM KNOW because some women will lie and say they’re not. I’m not talking about her kind right now.) We get intimate with this guy but he CONSTANTLY tells us that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship.  Now his actions are all types of relationship actions but he remains singing the same ol song, “I don’t want to be in a relationship”.  Yeah we women hear that but we’re focused on his actions because we like him and we tell ourselves all kinds of stories as to how he’s just holding back because of this or that baggage he has. How he’s just saying that because he’s scared to admit how he really feels because he doesn’t want to be hurt….yadda, yadda, yadda.  All this time we’re professing our love to him and telling him how we feel and he’s still saying he doesn’t want t relationship.  Time passes….He moves on….We get PISSED and feel like he did us so wrong.

****BAM!!****Now some women might lose their minds, flip out and make life a living hell for the man. Some may just do something real hurtful to him and some may just walk away and deal with the pain. All the while the man is feeling like what’s wrong with her, she’s crazy, this girl is tripping, and I told her I didn’t want a relationship. ****RIGHT HERE!*****  What do you see as the problem here?  Most would say the female was all wrong and while I agree that she definitely has to take some blame I have to also say we can’t take blame away from the man.  I feel he has to be held responsible as well for not having some self-control and being able to NOT get involved with her when she said she wanted a relationship and he KNEW he didn’t want one.  Just because she allowed you to “lick her sweetness” didn’t mean you had to.

As a friend of mine told me so many years ago, “when it comes to matters of the heart you never know what to expect” and I have found that to be true.  From watching the news, people around me and my own personal experiences, I have come to believe that when it comes to emotions expect the unexpected especially when they’re HURT emotions. So if/when that woman “wigs out” on you remember YOU chose to lick that lollipop so don’t be mad that once you bit it the gum in the center was hard.

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