Article courtesy of Healthy Black Woman Mind Body & Soul
Before you settle down with one person for the rest of your life you want to explore your options. This means dating a few people at a time casually to test the waters out. But how do you go about doing this? Do you talk to one person that you are dating about another person that you are also dating or do you keep them in the dark? How do you talk to one about the fact that you are more serious about another? How do you break your time up so that you have time for each equally but still have time for yourself as well?
First off, going on dates with multiple people is common. More common than you may think in fact. There are a lot of people that will go on a few dates with different people per week. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Assume that the people you are going on dates with are sleeping with other people, they will assume the same unless it is made clear that you aren’t, and you will be able to ease the tension caused by expectations.
People expect bad things to happen to them, especially when it comes to relationships. If you are adult enough and take care of things the right way, it won’t be so bad. For example, if one person texts you and asks if you are free Saturday night, instead of ignoring them because you already have a date, respond as soon as you can and politely decline, but offer up some other times that you are free. If you don’t feel like seeing them again, be honest, don’t just ignore them and leave them hanging.
Finally, don’t look at dating multiple people as “playing the field”. Look at it as getting out and enjoying your life while you are young and have the time. Just remember that while you are out with different people, make sure to practice safe s*x at all times and be responsible with what you do and where you go. Most importantly, have fun!