Voice ~ What’s best for me or my child?


I have a child by a guy that I feel has lost respect for me. He’s cheated on me and put his hands on me. He works but I take care of most things. I do love him but I know I deserve better but I feel like I want our child to have both parents in one house. My child is very close to their dad so I feel if we split it will hurt my child. What should I do?



  1. Love yourself and your children enough to remove you all from an abusive (physical and mental) situation that has the potential to get worse! Ask yourself: What message are you sending your children if you stay? What message are you sending your children if you leave? Is this a safe and/or healthy situation for those involved? What’s the worse that could happen? Once you answer these questions “truthfully” for yourself, you will have the answer you’re looking for. I hope this helps and pray for the best outcome.

  2. Do what is best for all involved. My parents divorced when I was real young and it didn’t affect any relationship or access I had with my dad. If he wanted to be involved he was. What you don’t want to have happen us your child growing up thinking this is “normal” behavior when being in a relationship. You are strong enough to do what you need to do. Any change in life that we make is scary, but we all adjust.

    • Thanks for commenting Jeff. I feel the biggest influence to children, if both parents are involved, is how the parents interact with one another. Whether together or seperate I think that’s what matters most. Children pick up on a lot more than we give them credit for. They are like sponges but very resiliant so I believe keeping them in positive environments as best possible it what matters most.

  3. If you have to ask you probably already know the answer to your question. You need to make a plan of escape.This is not how you want to live and it will not get better. You have to move smart and act smart and make sure you end up in a better situation or expect for your child to follow your footsteps. I wish you luck and strength.

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