I ran across this post on “Black Girls Are Easy” and found it so interesting that I just had to share it with you.


How To Compete With Hoes

Erica Mena

Don’t feel bad, even Halle Berry got cheated on. I love that we live in a world where pointing to a celebrity’s misfortune helps people feel less shitty about their own situations. Beauty, money, fame, none of that shallow shit guarantees loyalty, that’s true, but statements like that are self-defeating. It’s like you’re giving men a free pass by using the excuse, “I’m not as good as her, so of course it’s going to happen to me”. Accepting it as unstoppable is never the answer. Try telling the Bodega owner he should cheer up because Citibank gets robbed too, and he’s liable to spit in your face. Who cares what happened to someone else, the how come’s of your situation are unique to you, and 10 out of 10 cheaters have different excuses as to why they did it, so stop finding comfort in being a member of the club. Cheating is a compulsion that is so varied that you could fill a phone book with all the reasons why people do it and still not understand. I want to talk about one in particular that I get emailed about—hoes trying to take your men. Nearly every ratchet gossip site did a story about that affair between DJ Envy and reality star Erica Mena. For those who aren’t up on trivial hood drama, here’s the rundown. Envy, married for nearly 20 years, steps out on his pretty wife with this industry cooz, and for some reason this caused a panic.

 Sometimes being married it makes you insecure dude. I looked like I had everything. It was scary, my wife is gorgeous. She might need somebody that’s smarter than me. It made me insecure. With being insecure, with me being weak. I was so insecure and so I started messing with somebody that was beneath me. A bird. Evil. A liar. Somebody that was desperate and it’s just so pathetic. – DJ Envy

Instead of talking about how Envy is a piece of shit it became more about how his wife was too pretty for that to happen, insinuating that if his wife was a biscuit away from Precious it would have been understandable… The confusion women always seem to have is, “Why do men lower themselves? If you’re going to cheat she should be worth it”. No she shouldn’t be. In reality there isn’t a pretty enough face, a phat enough ass, or rich enough sugar mama to justify hurting the one you love. Nothing is worth it—nothing. Men who cheat are rarely trying to replace the ones they’re with, so that logic of “she has to be better” is flawed.

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