I don’t think it can be made any plainer than this.  I believe Nissi hits the nail on the head with this post.

Morning All! I recently downloaded a newly published anthology of love poems and stories. I was so excited to come across the project because for the past 3 or so years I have been exploring love in my own life, others and writing poems and short stories about it. I have found that love changes us in many different ways by making us different. I cannot pin point the difference because the expression of love manifests itself differently for different people. The Bible says that perfect love drives out fear. The interesting thing is most people I have met who claim to be in love are also some of the most fearful people I know…So what has happened there?

One of the saddest things of our microwave, quick fix, all knowing generation is that we are also very suspicious. We seem to have lost a lot of moral grounding in a bid to assert ourselves and put no.1 first. As a result I don’t know that many people know what real love really is. Now I am only a humble 22 years of age and some people may raise their eyebrows and question what I know about love…Well I have lived through the terrible teens – a time of confusion, self hate and hyper self awareness. I learned during this time that if I am to enjoy my life and be a person who adds value to people’s lives instead of being bitter, I have to love myself. I have to be confident in myself and not be threatened by other people’s looks, ability and social standing. I have to know that I was created the way I am for a reason, love it, embrace it and nurture my own unique set of gifts. Put simply I have to learn to love myself. We can be many things to different people but if above all we are not true to ourselves by loving ourselves then it is worthless.

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