“The talk”

Oh the dreaded sex talk. Most of us can probably remember that awkward moment that lasted far to long for comfort. But maybe the truth is that it wasn’t at all long enough.

The most recent thinking is that a dialogue about sex should be started at a young age and carried throughout young adulthood. An ongoing conversation about sex, that it. This may sound overwhelming at first, but it might just have an underwhelming result! Gradual discussion about sex will allow children and teens to openly ask questions about sex and about their bodies as they arise, and will enforce the notion that asking these questions is okay.

The birds and the bees do not have to be daunting nor intimidating. If discussion is initiated when children are young, then the exploration of sex can be very gradual and age appropriate. Children will be free to ask questions as they develop rather than feeling like all sexual issues must be suppressed until adolescence.

The more information kids have about teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and abstinence, the less likely they were to have sex. The best thing about starting the discussion early? Parents are able to convey their values to their children at a young age, and then children are able to make decisions based on those values.

Recommendations from the American Academy of Pediatrics say that if we wait until kids are well into their teens to talk about sex then we have waited way too long! What do YOU think!?

Post courtesy of  Smart, Safe, And Sexy.



  1. I learned everything I need to know about sex from MTV in the mid eighties. First, the girl climbs up onto a pedistal and dances and spins. Then, a muscular, shirtless guy grabs a microphone, sings and points to her. ….then a baby comes.

  2. When I was growing up, I got my “the talk” from school sex education, my freaky aunts, and BAD MOVIES! I didn’t want my children to ever have to experience that! lol At first, “the talk” to my oldest son (who is about to turn 21) was “don’t pull it out unless you are cleaning it or going to the bathroom”! lol Then when I noticed he would say..”ooohhhhh, that girl is cute”…then I had “The Talk”! He was about 10-11 then. I sat down and broke it all down to him. I pulled out my college Biology books (for the male and female reproductive system), encyclopedias on sexually transmitted diseases, a pamphlet from the local health department about what to look for (if encyclopedias were too much! lol) on STD’s. How to use condoms etc. I wanted him to be protected from the things that some of the nasty things these little girls would unknowing possibly give to him. I believe knowledge is power. And if they are old enough to hear and handle the truth…then give it to them. Old and young, male and female! He has made wise choices because of it and had had no STD’s or children because of the knowledge I gave him.

    • I received my education the same way you did minus the aunts but fill it in with my boyfriend. Thank goodness he was raised properly or else who knows what I would have learned or contracted!

      I have a 10 & 16 year old and just like you did with your son we keep an open and ongoing sex ed conversation going. Thus far things are going well I pray it stays that way. Knowledge is power…using it is KEY!

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