One thing I’ve noticed is that a lot of people are hurting themselves by allowing others to make you feel bad with their opinions. You get mad at the other person when in actuality you should really be upset with yourself because people can only treat you the way you allow them to. Everyone has an opinion but it’s up to you to decide not to personalize it. Depending on the situation let that be their issue. If need be you speak up and walk on, either a person will accept it or not.
I found this interesting post by Dr. Robin on Oprah.com:
When someone you know hurts your feelings or puts you in an awkward situation, do you speak up for yourself or let the situation continue without saying a word? Dr. Robin says it’s important to be vocal when people in our lives hurt us. “Speak your truth, tell your truth, and then you will see what is actually possible in all of your relationships,” she says.
Think of a situation that has been eating away at you, Dr. Robin says. Maybe a friend continues to bring up an embarrassing story from your past at social gatherings, or perhaps your mother often comments on your large feet. Whatever the situation may be, Dr. Robin says that now is the time to speak your truth and fix the problem.
“Take charge of your relationships—not like a dictator or somebody who is trying to dominate the relationship—but as someone who is trying to regulate the way that you are treated and how you feel,” Dr. Robin says.
Always try to be mindful though, that there is a right and wrong way to say everything. Try to remember to treat others as you wish to be treated.
Have you found yourself in a situation where you wish you would have spoken up for yourself? Share your experience and how you think it may have been different if you would have spoke up.