Ménage à trois Anyone???

Recent discussions have led me to question is having a Ménage à trois something that most people feel a need to try?  It seems there are a lot of people who have experienced this at some point in their lives. The funny thing is that it seems to be a fantasy for most men and something most women do just to please a man.

Personally I have too many hang-ups with the situation to ever even attempt to try it thus saying I’ve never done it and I don’t think I ever will. It is interesting to know how others have come to find themselves participating in a Ménage à trois or 3-some as it’s also known.  One thing that I wonder about is the thought process of women because we can tend to be so emotional.

I’m sure I’m not the only person with questions about this situation. Readers if you don’t mind share with us a bit of your experiences or maybe some you’ve heard about?   I’ve listed a few of MY questions, please feel free to ask some of your own if any of you have them.  Learning is fundamental.   🙂

Questions:

Do you do this with 2 people you care about? If not do you eventually develop feelings or do you hit-it and quit-it?

How did you find yourself having a 3-some?

Does a woman HAVE to have anal sex to be with 2 men at once?

Men how do you feel about having 2 men and 1 woman?

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9 comments

  1. Hello ladies.
    About me – I am a very happily married man, 30yrs, and my wife and I have had some three-way experience w/another woman. It was interesting for me to read this article, more than anything because it helped something click in my mind (when thinking about the authors comments, and my own observations). So, I wanted to respond.

    More sexually-open relationships, particularly those with the desire or goal of maintaining a long-term relationship, are not for everyone. There are a few key things to keep in mind, which I’ll cover in a bit, but most importantly the relationship must be at the right ‘place’, per se, too. It’s not just about it being right for you, it should also be right for your relationship too.

    Some relationships are very casual, almost something of convenience and lesser so of romance. Other relationships are selfless, and completely void of possession (as it pertains to one another), becoming something far more liberal and not having any of the jealousy issues. And yet others, far more rarely in my experience, are at that point where trust is unquestioned and the relationship’s priorities transcend far beyond that of just the physical aspects.

    However, most relationships fall outside of these categories, which I’ve always thought is due to personal issues one or both of the people involved have. No matter how you spin it, there is or is not a valid reason for concerns or suspicions. If there is a valid concern in the relationship, perhaps the things should be re-evaluated to begin with. If there is no valid concern, then it’s more likely that one of the two (or both) are passing the burden of insecurity and lacking self-esteem or confidence onto the relationship… which is never a good thing unless you can both work through it. In the end, these relationships are just not ready for a more open sexuality, as doing so would be asking for problems.

    So, now that that’s out of the way, here’s the stuff to keep in mind when it comes to 3-ways play:

    Why is SHE thinking about doing it?
    If she has always had a sexual attraction to women, even if only in miniscule amounts (which most women do, and may not realize it), then so-far so-good. This is an amazing way to experience something that can only be accomplished via a threesome.
    If she’s doing it for him, and there is zero personal desire for interaction w/another woman, that’s still okay, but now that’s a different ‘need’. Here, there should be a fairly strong sense of pleasure or gratification when seeing that YOU are providing this level of pleasure, or that caliber of fantasy, to your partner (for women, this is similar in concept to men whom are turned on the most when they stimulate an orgasm for their partner). Being the cause for your partners orgasmic experience is a very flattering & accomplishing experience.

    Why is HE interested?
    Most men are interested… very interested, in fact. There are, however, a very few out there that are genuinely not interested, usually due to a personal-value or religious conflict with the ‘taboo’ topic.
    Those men whom are interested are also likely to make some bad decisions, due to the almost overwhelming excitement of the experience. By bad decisions, of course I mean rushing in too quickly, or focusing too much on the 3rd wheel, or too little on his partner. It’s understandable, but completely un-acceptable.
    Women should usually take the lead in these encounters, as they tend to hold the emotional card in their hand. Ultimately, every couple should go into this together, focusing on tailoring the pace and over-all experience to the needs of the less-confident or secure of the two (which is understandably usually the woman).

    Where’s the line?
    There is always a limit, what’s yours? It’s extremely important for both of you to know and fully understand where those lines in the sand are, and to avoid approaching them too closely.
    In my experience, it’s always best to talk about what she wants, what he wants, and what she doesn’t want. Men don’t seem to have a problem saying ‘no’ if something comes up that is too far, but women may sometimes do things beyond their comfort zones, trying to be a good sport about it. This can be a bad thing in the end, so both should focus on keeping to the things that excite, turn-on & positively stimulate HER.

    Why are threesomes potentially good?
    Just like there is no way to really explain the feeling of sex to someone who’s never had any, it’s difficult to really explain the wonders of a threesome to someone who’s never participated in one.
    For starters, there’s something to be said about the touch of a woman, as it compares to the touch of a man. As one might expect, a woman really does know how to touch like only a woman can. Men, no matter how good they are at it, simply can’t seem to do it the same way.
    Kissing is another big one. A man, even when freshly shaved, will probably still feel more raspy & course than a woman. Plus, women do usually tend to do things more gracefully and delicately. If you’ve ever found yourself feeling like men are just too rough or harsh at times, you’ll likely REALLY enjoy being with another woman.
    And there’s also something to be said about the feeling of having two pairs of lips kissing all over your body. Try this: think of a hot n’ steamy make out session you’ve had. Focus on the goose bump-inducing & leg-trembling kisses on the neck, stomach and inner thigh. Now, imagine that times two… one on your neck, the other on your thigh. Or, two sets of hands caressing you… two bodies tangled with your own. It’s simply an amazing experience, especially if you can ride the feeling and can refrain from over-thinking about it (we all tend to do that).

    In the end, it’s worth the effort for those couples whom share a strong or trusting enough relationship. For most, it can be devastating and often leads to a break-up when entered pre-maturely. But for those that can learn to enjoy it together, it truly is the door to a whole new world of jaw-dropping, O-inducing, and sexually invigorating experiences. For us, it’s been loads of fun, and has brought us closer and tighter together than we were before.

  2. Do you do this with 2 people you care about? If not do you eventually develop feelings or do you hit-it and quit-it? I’ve had 3 threesomes in my life. Two were with a friend and their guy and the last one was with 2 guys. One was a guy I’ve been dating on and off for a short while and his cousin. I think doing it with people you aren’t too close to would be better. I haven’t developed any feelings though. Maybe if the situations were great (they were lame/hilarious lol) maybe some feelings would develop. I think that would be a huge no-no though.

    How did you find yourself having a 3-some? Out of curiousity. I was approaced with all 3 of them. I thought maybe the next time would be better. They seem to get worse. LOL.

    Does a woman HAVE to have anal sex to be with 2 men at once? Anal isn’t necessary. Maybe you suck him while the other him hits you from the back.

    Men how do you feel about having 2 men and 1 woman? I’m not a man but I’ve wanted to try the two man again but most men won’t oblige to it. I’ve given such hope up because I know I have to return the favor with 2 chicks eventually. LOL.

  3. I’m a woman who has been part of a three (or more) some three times. All 3 times were decades ago tho!!! First time, I was 18. It was with a guy I worked with that I liked. He lured me into it with his brother and another guy friend. One of them had a pickup truck with a cap, so we were in the back. I had one in my hand, one in my mouth, and one inside me. It was pretty hot for a young and inexperienced woman!

    Since it went pretty well the first time, I agreed to do it again, this time w/the same guy I worked with and two other friends in one of the guy’s van. One of the guys took me up the ass by surprise with no lubrication. It was *extremely* painful!!! I was with three men and was afraid what they would do if I protested, so I bit my lip and allowed it to happen. I bled from my ass for about 3 weeks. It took me decades before I was willing to try anal again after that.

    The third time, I was in my early twenties. It was with a friend’s brother whom I had a crush on when I was younger and a girlfriend of mine (NOT his sister!!!). He was in town briefly, and we invited him along for a ski weekend at a condo. My girlfriend and I both liked him, so I suggested it to her. We went into the sauna and I started rubbing his chest, then suggested she rub him too. My girlfriend and I didn’t touch each other (I’m not into that and was glad she wasn’t). We ended up having to leave where we were, so we went to her house. We were hanging out in her bedroom, and she got a phone call. She went out to take the call, but was on the phone for a while. One thing led to another, and he and I started having what was the best sex I had ever experienced, so much so that we fell off the bed onto the floor, but kept going…….until my girlfriend opened the door. She just laughed, closed the door again and went away, but we were so surprised and embarrassed that we never finished. He’s still that unfinished business, would love to finish it. I saw him a few years ago and he still looks great, but of course he’s married with 2 kids. Oh wait, since then, I’m married too. *sigh*

    As far as anything I wish I had done that I never got to, here’s my list:

    1) Would love to have someone (would prefer male but would take female) lick me while I’m getting fucked.
    2) Would love to do a threesome with two men again, especially if the guys were bisexual. I never thought I would enjoy that until I saw it while cruising internet porn and it was very hot!!
    3) Now that I’ve learned how to enjoy anal), I’d love to try double penetration. For those wanting to know how to enjoy anal, here’s my instructions. Ttease it very slowly, because that sphincter won’t open until it’s damn ready. Practice w/a toy first that’s about the size of your man. It can take 15 or 20 minutes until it will open enough to take it all. Your guy will love watching you tease yourself w/the toy getting ready for him, but try it on your own a few times before doing it for him.
    4) Would love to get a hot shemale to do both me and my husband. I see this as the perfect solution for all of the above. She could lick me while he fucks me, she could do double penetration, she and him could fool around, orally, anally, or both. Heck, I’d love to 69 with my hub while she takes turns fucking each of us. How hot would that be???

  4. My gf says she’d never be interested with wwm, but to my surprise she said the idea of mmw turns her on. I could never deal with the after-thoughts of a mmw situation. But strangely, the idea of a mmw with my gf turns me on. Not because of the other guy – that in itself turns me off – but the idea of my gf with two men.

    • Well if she says she’s OK with it you may get your wish but if you have reservations about it I would suggest not doing it because it may jeopardize the relationship.

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