Emily Brown wrote “Affairs: A guide to Working Through the Repercussions”. Ms. Brown is a social worker specializing in infidelity and classifies affairs into 5 types:

  • The Conflict Avoidance Affair. This is the couple that seems so very nice yet one of them will “go around the block and across the street” in order not to have conflict. In this situation it is easier for a person to deal with an unfaithful situation than deal with the partner.
  • The Intimacy Avoidance Affair. One (or even both) of the partners builds a wall to protect him/herself from the outside world. It is easier to have an affair than be exposed to a partner.
  • The Sexual Addiction Affair. One partner is constantly having affairs and enjoys the chase. He/she denies any problem and may even be proud of the conquests.
  • The Split-Self Affair. This affair is marked by what on the surface seems like a good relationship. However, feelings and needs are not expressed or met and communication is not genuine. The unfaithful partner is torn between the positive history and the need to really be him/herself.
  • The Exit Affair. In this case the unfaithful person wants to end the marriage and on a conscious or unconscious level, uses this situation to accomplish just that.

Emily Brown works with couples, individuals and families. She offers trainings for professionals and is available for telephone consultation. Get more information at Affairs-help.com

 

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