Every woman has had her share of disappointments in dating and relationships. We’ve all been disappointed, hurt, or feel like we have gotten the short end of the stick when our heart came into play. After one too many disappoinments, a lot of women become discouraged and turn their anger towards the men that they feel misled them or mishandled their trust. However, too many women turn their anger towards men, as a whole. Thus, lines such as “men are scum!” (to put it lightly) manifest and echo throughout relationship conversations. While some women are unfairly misled, some are not! Yes, a lot of the criticism and blame is misdirected. If you find yourself in any situation over and over again, there comes a time when you have to look at yourself. Your pain and your countless nights crying yourself to sleep do not deserve sympathy if you are stepping into the same situation over and over again. Just because your intentions are good does not mean that your decisions are smart!

I’m just going to touch on a particular mistake women make that get them disappointed every time. Ready? Here it is:  They do NOT listen!

What?! Women don’t listen? All the talking and communicating that women like to do and you’re telling me that they don’t listen?? Yes, that is exactly what I’m saying.

Men may not talk much or want to sit down as much as women and have a heart to heart, but they DO talk. Most men are pretty direct about what they want and what they do not want from the start. If a man does not want a relationship, he will say so. When a man says “I’m not looking for a relationship.” STOP! Think about what you really want to happen with this man. You like him, you think he’s cute, etc etc. You’re giving him the time of day for a reason and usually it’s in hope that things will one day progress. So, in a sense, you ARE looking for a relationship. You are looking for a commitment. You are looking for a little bit more than a “whatever happens, happens” approach. That alone is enough to tell you that what the two of you are looking for do NOT align.

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