Can you recreate love lost?

The answer to this is YES!   In order to do it you must have one essential ingredient – willingness on the part of both people involved.  Once a person has “given up” and has decided in their heart he/she no longer wants the relationship, the chances of rekindling love are minimal. You don’t have to have a lot of willingness; faith the size of a “mustard seed” can be enough but the effort has to be put in. I’ve listed a few helpful tips:

1) Counseling to help resolve underlying problems and to motivate you can be helpful. It’s always good to get an unbiased opinion and you don’t have to worry about your business being spread all over town.  Sometimes we have personal issues that we don’t recognize are jeopardizing our relationships and counselors are trained to recognize them and inform us how to possibly get past them.

2) Remember what you use to have together. What attracted you to each other? What did you do on your first date? What kinds of things did you do for fun? Do you still do any of these things?  Most couples find this kind of reminiscing enjoyable and enlightening. It reminds you that at one time you had some pretty great feelings for one another.

3) Fill your heart with gratitude and appreciation toward your partner. Sometimes a person may not feel love toward a partner but gratitude and appreciation is something more easily created. Notice everything wonderful about your spouse, look for the great things about him or her, keep your mind and spirit filled with the fabulous traits and characteristics. Remember, true love is not just those endorphins but it is about deep care and closeness.

Love is voluntary and it cannot be forced.  Don’t try to “make” someone love you.  It doesn’t work.  Love is something you do; someone doesn’t do it to you.  It requires your active participation.  You choose to be in love.  It is a conscious choice, more than just a feeling, love is a decision.  If you CHOOSE to love your partner again it can happen.

“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made all the time, made new.” ~ Ursula K. LeGuin

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