I’m sure at one point or another you’ve told your mate, baby I love your body just the way it is. Maybe it wasn’t even a mate, maybe it was just in conversation that you told someone I like real women, not all the fake hair, nails & make-up or I can’t stand those street thuggish, tattooed, ghetto type guys.

Maybe somewhere in your mind you mean that but what message do you think you send when your mate see’s you drooling over the Lil’ Kim looking woman with the big boobs, face full of make-up, long weave and daggers for nails or that Vin Diesel looking, tatted up guy that just stepped off his crotch rocket?

People we are all being hypocrites to some extent. “Baby you are all I want, perfect for me BUT if Beyonce Knowles / Tyson Beckford gave me a chance I might cheat.”  Now what indirect message are we really sending with statements like that?  We think they’re harmless but subconsciously they can and sometimes do cause harm.  Let’s stop sending mixed messages.