Setting Dating Standards


A man named Stephen Covey once said, “Begin with the end in mind.” Knowing what you want out of any endeavor before you take it on is the best way to walk away with results you can be proud of.
Women we need to remember this when we decide to date. Have a standard about what you’re looking for. “What type of man do you want, what characteristics should he have?” Maybe you are not looking for a relationship and you just want a good time. Whatever kind of relationship you’re looking for, the type of man is very important.
Why is knowing so important you ask?  Well when you have standards you don’t go out and just grab anything that walks your way. You are more likely to take the time to go through the process of dating.  You get a chance to talk to him and find out if he has the qualities you’re looking for. As time goes on and you learn more about him you can choose to keep working on the relationship or scratch him off the list because he’s not worth it, he doesn’t meet your standards.
Without setting and sticking to your standards you can end up in an insta-relationship and you never know what you’ll end up with. Male and female hormones mix up a strong concoction and especially once you’ve slept with a man it’s easy to get sucked in, whether or not it is the best choice. Emotions are powerful, and we like to rationalize them to hide that fact. It’s easy to stumble off track if you have not been with many men or if you’re fresh out of a relationship and your heart is a bit vulnerable. A man’s charm can be mesmerizing. (Unfortunately I have been there!)

So let’s try to save ourselves some head and heartache by setting some limits, know your standards, and abide by them. In the end, you’ll be much happier with the results.


One comment

  1. >This Post is very interesting. From a male's perspective I'd like to add the fact that women control just about everything that happens in a relationship. Ya'll do. Once you have identified what exactly you want in a man, and in fact, meet that particular man. Stay calm about it. Keep your focus and if you really want to know if he's the one for you,… Don't give him none!!!! (pay attention please) Don't get so excited and give up the goods until that one that you desire meets your criteria and is able to correspond with you effectively and in a mature manner without sex being a factor. The lack of sex will expose an man's true motives. I'm a man, and I know what the hell I'm talkin' bout!!! Now, don't be a tease, but do pay attention to his actions and not his words. If you tell him you're not ready, and good guy will wait until you are. Don't shake his hands unless you've seen him wash them of course!! But if a guy is putting up a front and pretending to be "the one" just to get in your pants, his patience will diminish and turn to hostility!!! Try it and see if I'm wrong…

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