It’s FINALLY Over!

The worse part of some relationships is the ending. I say “some” because sometimes the end can be a good thing.  How do you know when it’s really over and that chapter in your life if finally closed?

I heard Steve Harvey say (and have experienced) that people on the outside of a relationship looking in tend to pass judgment on how soon a partner moves on because they don’t realize that the relationship actually ended before the two people involved actually parted ways.Outsiders (sometimes even a partner) will say they must have been cheating because they didn’t wait any time before moving on.  What I want to know is who made up how long it should take before you find a new mate or go on a date? I figure you aren’t in that person’s head or heart so who are you to judge…mind your own business!

So I’m asking, once you realized the relationship was over, how long was it before you physically parted ways?



  1. >I say if you are completely OUT, no sex between the two, don't live together, and if married ..divorce is final, than it's no ones business. However, if the opposite is true than it is the other persons business who they may be laying with: they are still legally bound to the union. However, it is NO outsiders business in this case. But you can't expect everyone to have that level of respect for themselves let alone someone else.

  2. >This "should be" based on an individual basis. A friend of mine had her marriage come to an ultimate end when her husband passed away. And this too was over for a very long time before his death, but met the love of her life a month or so later. And this guy buried his late wife the same month she buried her husband!!! You must know yourself first, never mind what anyone else says or even thinks. Everyone, however, should NEVER start a new relationship with old baggage from the previous. In life I've observed women being guilty of transitioning immediately in order to "not be alone". That is just unhealthy emotionally. If anyone feels like he/she is afraid of being alone some counseling needs to be sought as opposed to adding another person to the equation. Ask yourself this: "Does the new partner deserve a whole partner or not?"

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